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Are you living life…or is life living you?

                At a recent real estate and business conference, our trainer asked the crowd, “How will your life change once you reach and surpass your financial goals?”  There was a blank in our workbook for us to respond.  I wrote down the first thing that came to my mind, “I could live life the way I want.”

                As I finished writing that statement, it occurred to me, “Does that mean I am not living my life the way I want now?”  I am still not sure how to handle that question.  I love my life.  I love my wife, our marriage, our house, our friends, family, and our business.  I love what I do.  Now that’s not to say that if I didn’t need the income I would still spend as much time doing it as I currently am.  I would mix in more trips, more charity time, more time with my wife. 

                When I was growing up, our baseball coach would always yell at us, “Don’t just go through the motions, put some effort into it.”  I would venture to say that there are a high percentage of people just going through the motions of life.  Why?  Is it our culture?  Is it the media?  Is it our attitudes?  I think we would all agree that when we meet a person, whether it’s for the first time or hundredth time, and they are excited about life and energetic, it makes us feel more alive.  It puts a spark in us and adds an extra boost in our step.  Are we just going through the motions because of money?  Personally, I believe that all of these are possibilities. 

                One trick I learned in one of our business trainings several years ago was to hang around people you want to be like.  So if you want to be rich, spend time around people who are rich.  If you want to be poor or middle class, find people who fit that category and spend more time with them.  If you want to be a hairdresser, spend time around people who are trained to do hair.  No matter what you want to be whether it is a profession, a dream, a social status, find someone who is already doing it or has already done it, and spend time around them.  Just listen – there is a reason God gave us two ears and one mouth…  We should listen twice as much as we talk.  And I do mean listen, not just hear the words.  There is a difference. 

                                So what is keeping you back from living the life you want?  What or who is restraining you from the living the life of your dreams?  Do you still have dreams and goals?  Or have they just turned into wishes?  Or have they disappeared all together? 

                One of my dreams is to have a classic car collection. I am a big car enthusiast.  I truly enjoy classic cars, muscle cars, and even nice new cars. Ever since I was a teenager, my family and I have gone to car shows.  When we would walk by some of my favorites, looking at the clean lines, beautiful paintjobs, shiny chrome, and all the time and effort put into making the car into the being it was, I would be all but drooling over this masterpiece.  Goose bumps would shutter through my body as my facial expression was all ivory – grinning from ear to ear.  Can you think of a time when you got goose bumps from seeing something, hearing a story, or thinking about something?  There are a number of examples that come to my mind besides cars.  What does it for you? 

                Probably the best advice I can offer is to dream!  Have dreams – BIG ones!  Someone once said, “If your dreams do not give you goose bumps, then you are not dreaming big enough!”  So dream big, then bigger.  In the process of being involved with our Bible study group every week, we talk about dreams and goals a lot.  There has been more than one occasion where we have agreed that God’s power and his vision and plan for our lives is so much larger than we can comprehend, that he speaks to us through our dreams and goals.  He offers us a little piece at a time so we can understand it and follow and most importantly, we are passionate about it.  So find what you are passionate about, what motivates you, and develop a dream and a goal for that.  Write down a plan on how to accomplish it or achieve it.  Maybe it is running a marathon, or being a stay at home mom, skiing, traveling, living in a log cabin, or maybe it is having several homes.  Maybe it is donating more time and money to charities, churches, and organizations you believe in. 

                Here are some action steps:

 Spend time getting to know who you are, your strengths,   weaknesses, and passions

 Write them down so that they are clearly defined – the more detail the better

 Write down your goals and dreams; include deadlines and due dates

Find detailed pictures of your goals and dreams – put them up where you see them EVERY DAY!

Brainstorm and decide how you will accomplish those goals

Leave me a comment with some of your goals and dreams.  I would love to hear them.  Some of my goals include being semi-retired within the next three years and buying a lot of land in Colorado in the mountains to start building a house. 

Thanks for visiting!

-Nate Cadwell

“Winning Solutions Specialist”

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